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Wednesday, January 29, 2020

Three Ways God Uses Our Trials for Good

"For as we share abundantly in Christ’s sufferings, so through Christ we share abundantly in comfort too." 
(2 Corinthians 1:5, ESV)

So far this blog has focused a lot on suffering and lament and attempting to tackle the false teachings that can make our earthly trials that much worse. Focusing on these important topics has been extremely therapeutic for me personally, but the sad aspects of our trials only reflect part of the picture. We cannot neglect shouting about the many ways that God uses our trials for His glory and our good. Hopefully, if you are going through a trial, these meditations will spark your own musings as you recount all the ways that God has been good to you.

1) God uses our trials to make us into conduits of his comfort. 

When you really stop and ponder this concept, it's mind blowing! The high and holy God, creator of heaven and earth and of all things that live and breathe, gives us unworthy, created mortals the privilege of being conduits for his loving comfort to flow into this suffering world. The scriptures explain how this works: 

The God of all comfort 
"comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God" 

(1 Cor. 1:4, ESV). Notice the progression here: God gives us his comfort in the midst of our trials so that we can give his comfort to others. We see this being played out all over the place in the church today. Those who have experienced various kinds of struggles and trials are uniquely prepared to offer comfort to those who are currently struggling. Of course, this can only happen if we draw near to him in our trials so that we can receive his comfort. This brings me to a second, but related point.

2) God uses our trials to refine us.

Throughout my journey with infertility, the Lord has used his word to comfort me. I often journaled the Bible verses God used to speak to me. Sometimes I would come across a verse during my Bible reading or a verse would be brought to my mind. At other times the daily verse on my Bible app seemed perfectly timed as if it was meant just for me, speaking words of life and comfort and hope specific to my situation. One of those verses was from Psalm 143:10, ESV: 
"Teach me to do your will, for you are my God! Let your good Spirit lead me on level ground!"

This verse has popped up repeatedly through various channels so I think I haven't learned it well (and I'm still learning it!). I also think this verse runs counter to a lot of the self-centered "Christian" messages we hear today (one of the reasons I've had to examine and slough off false teachings as part of my journey toward healing and wholeness). 

Notice in this verse that David is asking God to teach him to do God's will. Our natural bent is to fulfill our own fleshly desires. Sometimes our trials are a result of us trying to get God to do our will, rather than surrendering to his. As we yield to Christ and his life is formed in us, our desires should conform more and more to his (Psalm 37:4, Matthew 16:24-26, Luke 22:42, Galatians 2:20). Part of this refinement involves seeing things as God sees them, which is our next point.

3) God uses our trials to give us an eternal perspective.

In my situation, I believe God has been using my season of infertility for kingdom work. He has had some work for me to accomplish that I could not have done if I had been married at the age I wanted to be or had kids when I wanted them. My husband and I are in ministry and God has given us a very large spiritual family. In order to follow his leading in our lives, we both moved far away (to the other side of the world before marriage) from our biological families. Our current ministry is also not near either of our families. Because of this and because we don't have our own kids yet, he has been using this season to increase my love and value for the family of God. We see Jesus making the point in Matthew 12:46-50 that our true family is made up of those who do God's will. Jesus placed a higher value on this "true" family than on his own biological family. In doing this, he sets an example for us to follow.

God has a unique calling and gifts for each of us, and only he knows best how to weave together the tapestry of our lives to fulfill the purposes that he has for us. We cannot accomplish his will for our lives by comparing ourselves to others. We must get his perspective on our situation by regularly immersing ourselves in his word and being obedient. 

There are many more ways that God uses our trials for good. These are just a few for today to spark your own thinking. I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments.

Thanks for reading and may the Lord richly bless you and encourage you as you press on to know him more.

I will close with a kickback from the 90s: Trials Turned to Gold by PFR. Enjoy! :-)

Tuesday, January 7, 2020

The Root of False Teaching Regarding Physical Healing

I recently published an article here on the topic of physical healing and, in particular, the teaching that it is always God's will to heal. I see that hundreds of people are linking to my blog from that article so I wanted to write a couple of follow up posts on that topic. I already wrote one at this link here.

Generally, whenever you see Bible teachers promising that God wants to heal you right now in this life, they often use this language describing the atonement: "purchased your healing," or "bore stripes in His body," or "made payment" for your healing. For example, see this link.

What a lot of people never ask is "What verse in scripture are they basing this on?"

A friend of mine, Mike Sasso, who pastors Calvary Chapel Eagle sent these notes to me this week after seeing the article I posted on this topic. As he points out, a misinterpretation of Isaiah 53:5 is really at the root of a lot of this false teaching regarding healing. Please consider his study on this topic:

Isaiah 53:5 - By His Stripes we are healed? Is this verse promising “physical” healing, “spiritual” healing, or both?
The question is: “Is healing provided in Christ’s atonement?”
“But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are HEALED.”Isaiah 53:5, KJV.
There are a number of factors to consider in answering the “HEALING” question here...
1. First of all notice that twice in Is. 53:5 the equivalent of “SIN” is mentioned – “Transgressions” & Iniquities”. These are definitely “Spiritual” issues! And these are definitely “Atonement” issues connected with words such as “Wounded” and “Bruised”…
2. Second, notice that “Physical” healing is NOT specifically mentioned at all in this verse. (V:5)
3. Third, consider the CONTEXT of this book. Right from the beginning of this book Isaiah begins an analogy of equating the spiritual condition of Israel to “sickness”. Read carefully Isaiah 1:4-6… “Ah sinful nation, a people laden with iniquity, a seed of evildoers, children that are corrupters: they have forsaken the LORD, they have provoked the Holy One of Israel unto anger, they are gone away backward. Why should ye be stricken any more? ye will revolt more and more: the whole head is SICK, and the whole heart FAINT. From the sole of the foot even unto the head there is no soundness in it; but wounds, and bruises, and putrifying sores: they have not been closed, neither bound up, neither mollified with ointment.” Isaiah 1:4-6, KJV.
4. Fourth, we will discover that Peter specified that the “healing” provided at the cross was “spiritual”. 1Peter 2:24-25 [It’s a question of the “Atonement”. (see also Rom 5:10-19)] “Who his own self bare our sins in his own body on the tree, that we, being dead to sins, should live unto righteousness: by whose stripes ye were healed. For ye were as sheep going astray; but are now returned unto the Shepherd and Bishop of your souls.” 1 Peter 2:24,25, KJV.
5. Fifth, of all the healings recorded in the book of Acts, Isaiah 53:5 is nevera to. And in all NT teaching on healing, never are we told to claim the promise of Isaiah 53:5, “by his stripes we are healed”. (Cp. also James 5:14-16)
6. Sixth - We see many examples in the NT of good men of God not receiving their healing. If healing was guaranteed as a part of the atonement then this would not be the pattern. (2Cor 12:7-10, Gal. 4:13-15, 1Tim 5:23, Php 2:27)
7. Seventh - Why would God give “Gifts of Healing” to the church? (1Cor. 12:9,28)If healing was already provided in the atonement we would not need this gift. Cp. Gifts of forgiveness 

What about the promised “PHYSICAL Healing” alluded to in 53:4? “Surely he hath borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted.” Isaiah 53:4, KJV. 

The NEW TESTAMENT AUTHORS offer further insight…
8. The only time we ever see Isaiah 53:4 quoted in the New Testament is Matt. 8:17… (Notice the context) “16 When the even was come, they brought unto him many that were possessed with devils: and he cast out the spirits with his word, and healed all that were sick: 17 That it might be fulfilled which was spoken by Esaias the prophet, saying, Himself took our infirmities, and bare our sicknesses.” Matt 8:16,17 Matthew is saying that Isaiah 53:4 was fulfilled during Jesus earthy ministry, NOT at the cross. It is God’s nature to heal. Jesus reveals God’s nature to us. Thus, Jesus healed people. Healing was available before the crucifixion and continues to be available after the cross. But the crucifixion was not needed to provide physical healing. The atonement of the cross of Jesus Christ was needed to provide forgiveness of sin and “spiritual” healing. (Heb. 9:22) The ONLY TIME Is. 53:5 is quoted in the New Testament it is obviously referring to “SPIRITUAL” healing… “24 Who his own self bare our sins in his own body on the tree, that we, being dead to sins, should live unto righteousness: by whose stripes ye were healed. 25 For ye were as sheep going astray; but are now returned unto the Shepherd and Bishop of your souls.” 1 Peter 2:24,25, KJV. So then, according to the New Testament authors Matthew and Peter, Isaiah 53:4 is referring to “Physical” healing, while Isaiah 54:5 is referring to “Spiritual” healing. Jesus’ life and presence brings physical healing. Jesus’ death on the cross and resurrection brings spiritual healing.
Conclusion: The phrase “By his stripes we are healed” found in Is. 53:5 is NOT referring to physical healing. The phrase refers to the healing of the spiritually sick condition of sin. “By his stripes we are healed” – Is 53:5 is NEVER quoted in the New Testament in reference to physical healing!

Then what does the Bible teach about physical healing? Is it available for believers today? “

Healing” is a part of God’s nature. God is a “healing God”. One of the names of God is Jehovah Rapha = “The Lord that Heals”… “… I am the LORD that healeth thee.” Exodus 15:26b, KJV. Healing is offered repeatedly throughout scriptures in both the old and new testaments: Ex 23:25, 2Ki 20:5, Job 5:18, Ps 41:3,4, 103:3, 147:3, Isa 57:18, Jer 8:22, 33:6, Ho 6:1, Jas 5:11-16. The cross was not needed to provide physical healing. The atonement of the cross of Jesus Christ guaranteed “spiritual” healing to believers, NOT “physical” healing. 

“But he was wounded for our TRANSGRESSIONS, he was bruised for our INIQUITIES: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed.” Isaiah 53:5, KJV. “Who his own self bare our SINS in his own body on the tree, that we, being dead to sins, should live unto righteousness: by whose stripes ye were HEALED. For ye were as sheep going astray; but are now returned unto the Shepherd and Bishop of your souls.” 1 Peter 2:24,25, KJV.

Thank you, Pastor Mike!

The following article also goes into depth on the same topic:

The Bible Never Promises Immediate Physical Healing in the Atonement

You can also watch this radio broadcast where Pastor Mike addresses this issue.

Saturday, January 4, 2020

When the Miracle Doesn't Come

I wrote an article earlier this week that was published here. This article describes how I was impacted for a time by false teaching from Word of Faith theology. I was told to claim certain scriptures (out of context) to break the curse of infertility. I was instructed to "hold onto faith" like it was some kind of magical weapon to wield in my struggle to get what I wanted. Though I felt convicted about the method and could not wholeheartedly subscribe to it, I am now even more convinced that this method is totally unbiblical and dishonoring to our sovereign Lord. Essentially, operating like a works-based effort, Word of Faith theology seems like a defiant rebellion against God when we should be praying, as Jesus prayed, "Thy will be done." 

Does that mean I have given up praying for a miracle? No. But I am "petitioning," not "claiming," because there is absolutely no biblical basis for me to claim a miracle in my situation.

After rejecting this false teaching, I have come to believe God is pointing my husband and I in the direction of adoption. This has made me wonder: if every couple with our struggle was granted a miracle (or continued to "hold onto faith" indefinitely), would there be as many couples considering adoption? We have to look at the big picture. God loves and cares for the desires of orphaned and abandoned children just as much (if not more!) as He cares for my desire to be a mother. He can work a miracle in arranging for our adoption (as He has done for countless others). There are so many beautiful miracle stories out there that are discounted (or not given nearly as much airtime) as the stories about physical healing. We need to recognize and glorify God for all of the many wonderful ways that He works, through both the joys and the sorrows of this life. 

Ultimately, this world is not our home and so whenever we experience dissatisfaction or unfulfilled longings we should remember and look forward to the promise we have in Christ that one day He will wipe away every tear. "There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain" (Rev. 21:4). I'm looking forward to that day. But for now we carry on in faith, trusting Him with all our unanswered questions and unresolved grief.

Psalm 68:5-6 New International Version (NIV)

 A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows,
    is God in his holy dwelling.

God sets the lonely in families,

    he leads out the prisoners with singing;
    but the rebellious live in a sun-scorched land.

Wednesday, January 1, 2020

Adoption Announcement!

After almost four years of battling infertility, including two surgeries, numerous medical appointments, tons of prayers and tears, we are excited to be moving forward in a joyful new direction this year as we pursue adoption! We are currently in the final phase of our home study for a domestic infant adoption. We are excited to see how our journey toward adoption will progress in this new year! We have been warned that the process toward a successful placement can be long and filled with ups and downs so we would appreciate your prayer as we navigate through this. The Lord has continued to be faithful to us in every way over the past year and we look forward to seeing how he will guide us in this next season. If you would like to follow along, you can subscribe to this blog where I hope to occasionally provide updates on our story.

Tuesday, November 12, 2019

Saying Goodbye to Mini-us

***Note: This letter was recommended as part of the infertility grieving process before moving forward with adoption. Though immensely therapeutic for me to write and share with others, it may be triggering for those who have unresolved infertility grief.

Dear Child I Will Never Know,

It's hard to fully grieve when I'm still holding out hope that I will one day get to meet you. But I know I need to have closure with you so my heart is fully open and ready to embrace a child that is very different from us in a way that is different than I had dreamed.

I never imagined that I would suffer so much grief over not getting to have you. I was never one of those girls who had names picked out for her children. Because of His calling on my life and my surrender to Him, I was never sure if God even had someone for me to marry at all, let alone whether I would ever experience the joy of having children. I often felt that His calling on my life was for singleness and chastity and this sense only increased as I reached my thirties and still hadn't met the right one. But I've always loved children, especially babies and toddlers. So after I married the wonderful man God brought into my life, I started to dream about having you. I tried to imagine what you might look like as God brought together the combination of our genes to make a little miniature of us. I got excited every month as I dreamed of conceiving you and getting that big fat positive on a pregnancy test.

Perhaps it's the narcissism of human nature that the majority of us seem to naturally want a mini-me, but I also thought of what an amazing and beautiful gift you would be as a living and breathing testimony of the love that we share. I often pondered the scripture that says "children are a blessing from the Lord" and it seemed like it would be most natural for God to provide this blessing for those who love Him and seek to walk in His ways.

I dreamed about feeding you and cuddling you, decorating your room, picking out cute clothes for you to wear, and posting cute pictures of you on Facebook. I imagined how fun it would be to introduce you to your grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins. As you grew up, I imagined everyone would be commenting on how various facial features or personality traits reminded them of me or your dad or other family members. That's what I experienced throughout my life and I expected it would be the same for you. I was really close to my mom growing up (and still am) and I expected it to be like that between us.

Because of my direct personal experience growing up with biological parenting, there are many unknowns for me when it comes to anticipating the beauty of adoption. There are also certain losses I need to come to terms with related to you.

I had dreamed of forming a bond with you early in life through pregnancy so that you would be used to the sound of my voice and we would form an attachment from your earliest moments. I'm now contemplating adopting a child who will have experienced the loss of their mother in their earliest days of life. That loss will be the result of other losses and painful circumstances as well. Hopefully my experience with loss will help me know how to help my child process and grieve their losses too. I anticipated difficulties and challenges in parenting, but I felt less nervous about the prospect thinking of the special bond that we would share. I'm now studying attachment issues of adopted children and facing the unknown which is always scarier than the known.

But the truth is, you were an unknown too. And the possibility of having you (cute & healthy as I imagined you) was also outside of my control. If adoption was always God's plan for us, then you were never meant to exist. But my dreams for you and my grief over not having you would be part of the tapestry God would weave together to prepare my heart for His plan.

So in order to heal and fully embrace the adoption journey, I need to say goodbye to you.

As I prepared to complete this blog entry, I thought it would be fun to add an imaginary photo of you. If you were a girl, I imagine you as a mini-me and I think of the cute baby pictures of myself. If you were a boy, I think of the cute baby pictures of Jeff. But, surprisingly, when I plugged our photos into a baby photo generator just now, I was quite shocked at the not-so-cute photos that appeared. Staring back at me was a total stranger who had some of the features of Jeff and I, but a lot of their own features as well (and maybe some facial distortions due to the limitations of this technology). This activity was actually quite therapeutic for me and I spent awhile trying different photos of Jeff and I and generating numerous possible pictures of you (most of them were kind of ugly, to be honest), until I finally found one that I thought was cute.

It still doesn't look like how I imagined you, though! Even if we were able to conceive biologically, you would still be very different from us. You would do things that would sometimes annoy us, you might believe differently than us, or make choices that would break our hearts, and yet, in order to reflect the heart of our loving Heavenly Father, we would still seek to love you unconditionally. 

So now we will try to do that for whatever child(ren) He has chosen for us.

Thank you, God, for another part of the process in this journey as you transition and prepare my heart for what you have in store.

Blessed Are Those Who Mourn?

(This article was originally published on a private blog for pastors' wives on February 25, 2019.)

My husband and I celebrated our 4th anniversary in January of this year. Our wedding day was one of the most glorious days in my life. Our dating and engagement months were filled with joyous anticipation as the Lord made a smooth path for our lives to come together. Everything seemed to be working out so beautifully. I felt an incredible sense of God’s favor and blessing and it felt like he was rewarding us with each other after we had each been waiting on him and faithfully serving him as singles for a long time. (I’m turning 40 in June.) My feelings were confirmed by other Christians who reinforced in me the idea that my marriage was a great blessing from God.

Currently, we are in a season of waiting to see how God will provide children for us. My trial with infertility has caused me to question many things, including my thinking about God’s blessings. If I really believe that God works ALL things together for good (Rom. 8:28), then I should believe that even something like infertility is a blessing in disguise. It’s so hard to think like this, though, especially when other Christians around me are frequently comparing God’s blessings to temporal things like marriage and children and material goods. I’ve heard or read that my infertility is a curse, a Satanic attack, a lack of faith, or possibly a result of sin.

Last month, I was on a trip in India. In Hinduism, if you experience something like infertility, you have undoubtedly done something wrong. This idea sometimes carries over into the church and so I learned that couples who are struggling with infertility feel a lot of guilt and shame.

One of the Christian women there assured me that I would be able to conceive because “God takes care of his servants.” She cited some examples of others they had prayed for who were able to conceive. I was feeling very encouraged and hopeful by their prayers and confidence. But then I spoke privately with an older woman who has been a devoted wife to a lay ministry leader for many years. Even though they are seeing fruit in their ministry, they haven’t been able to have any children. Suddenly, the passionate prayers and confident statements of the first woman stood in stark contrast to this other woman’s experience. Through tears, we pondered the ways of the Lord together and tried to make sense of the confusing situation. She questioned listening to some of the confident “words from the Lord” she had been given by others over the years, claiming she would conceive. Now she feels too old to adopt.

Although infertility is a very painful and difficult trial, it doesn’t compare to the kinds of losses and grief that many of my faithful Christian friends have experienced. Most of these don’t come close to comparing with Christians all over the world who are seriously persecuted or killed for their faith. Even though we know that God will reward the righteous and punish the guilty, this is ultimately going to be fulfilled in eternity, not in this life. This life will be filled with trials and testing as God works with each of us to transform us into his image. If our thinking and speaking about God’s blessing is wrong, we can do great damage to one another in the body.

Recently, I have been challenging myself to rethink of God’s blessings in a biblical way. What do the scriptures say about true blessing from God? “Blessed are the poor in spirit…those who mourn…the meek…those who hunger and thirst for righteousness…the merciful…the pure in heart…the peacemakers…those who are persecuted for righteousness’ sake…[those who are reviled]…” (Matt. 5: 3-11, ESV). I don’t see anything in this list that compares with the common statements I hear other Christians making to decide whether someone is blessed or not. I often hear assessments of blessing based on how large their house is or how many children they have or how well their ministry seems to be going. All of those things can be blessings from God, but he has so many other blessings as well!

I’ve considered my marriage as an example. I agree that my marriage is a tremendous blessing, but my years of singleness were also a blessing! Though I struggled with loneliness at times, the Lord also opened many doors for me and filled my life with amazing people, strategic opportunities, and unforgettable experiences. I also had a lot more freedom and time to pour into my relationships. In some ways I am more limited now because of my responsibilities as a wife.

On the other hand, I am now able to serve in ways that I wasn’t able to as a single. Both marriage and singleness are good. So far, I haven’t been able to have biological children, but God has given me many spiritual children. As a pastor’s wife serving in a growing church, I have so much more time to invest in ministry during this season. If I continue to be unable to conceive, God may lead us to adopt or foster and what a wonderful blessing those would be if that is God’s plan for us! We need to recognize ALL the blessings of God and not over-emphasize some of his blessings and exclude others. The greatest blessings God has provided are spiritual and eternal. Ephesians 1 includes a good list. I think the greatest blessing of all is simply the peace of being in God’s presence and that is accessible to us anytime, anywhere, as long as we set our hearts on seeking him and not trying to base our happiness on circumstances in this world.

Navigating the Pain of Infertility: Five Truths to Remember

This article was first published on December 11, 2018 on Premier Christianity's blog here.

Another negative pregnancy test.

After two and a half years of hoping and praying for a precious baby, I have lost count of how many tests I have taken. Sometimes I irrationally wonder to myself if I am taking them wrong.
“Ok, this time make sure and time it for exactly 15 seconds. Maybe that’s the problem.”
Cycle after cycle of hope is followed by disappointment that, after many months, turns into grief. I never thought of myself as a person with control issues until I encountered infertility. There’s almost nothing like it to make a Christian woman realise she is absolutely not in control and she must accept God’s plan for her life!
Rather than accept his plan, however, I wrestled with the Lord for a long time. Recently, he has brought me to a place of incredible peace as I have finally been able to surrender this part of my life to him. I am able to maintain this peace as long as I am vigilant to identify and conquer the lies of the enemy.
You are likely familiar with some of his common lies, which include: “God must not love you” or “God is punishing you” or “God doesn’t answer your prayers.” I didn’t realise I was struggling with these thoughts, but my anxiety over my situation revealed that I was.
I decided to make a list of some of the truths that have brought me to this place of peace I am now abiding in. If you are in a season of waiting, I hope these five truths will encourage you as well.

1. God loves us with an inexplicable love

The scriptures say God’s love surpasses our knowledge and takes strength to comprehend (Ephesians 3:18-19). I wasn’t consciously aware that I was doubting his love for me until one of my best friends was describing her view of God’s love for her. In her mid-30s and single, she really desires to be married someday. Instead of worrying about her future, though, she is peacefully content because she is so confident in the father’s extravagant love for her. I realised that if I was truly confident in his great love for me, I wouldn’t have any worries about my future either.
As I began to arrive at a deeper understanding of his love, my anxiety over my situation started to disappear. During this time the Lord highlighted a verse for me: "There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love" (1 John 4:18 ESV). I was blown away by a fresh new insight on this passage, accentuated by my circumstances. As God was perfecting an understanding of his great love for me, my fears were being eliminated.
I’ve started to become more consciously aware of the doubts that are at the root of my sad emotions. When I start to feel sad or worried, I stop and ask myself, “Am I doubting that God loves me and has a good plan for my life?” Quick confession and repentance in these moments keeps me anchored securely in his love.

2. God has already given us many good gifts

Sometimes you can get so focused on that one thing you want that you forget to be thankful for all the things God has already provided.
I try to remember and celebrate the good gifts God has given and try not to focus on what I’m hoping for in the future. God promises to give good gifts to his children when they ask (Matthew 7:9-11). However, we need to check our motives in our asking (James 4:3). Has the thing we are desiring become an idol?

3. God’s plan for our lives is according to the purpose of his will, not ours

This truth has taught me to give up my illusion of control, surrender to him, and stop comparing my life with others.
We are each unique and God wants us to trust him to decide what is best for each of us. Because I don’t have any kids yet, I have more time to invest in ministry. God has given me eyes to see how he is using me in this season to give birth to and nurture spiritual babies. He has also shown me that he wants to fulfill not only my desires for a family, but also the desires of children who don’t have a loving mother. His plan might be to pair me up with orphaned or abandoned children who are waiting to be loved.

4. God’s will is for our life to glorify him

Unfortunately, many well-meaning Christians are peddling the false teaching of the health and wealth prosperity gospel. This teaching seems to assert that God’s will is for us to receive everything we want. When I encounter friends with this theology, their encouragement usually amounts to this concept: "If you were really being blessed by God you wouldn’t be having this struggle." But waiting on God is a normal part of the Christian life! And scripture is full of teaching on how to endure and persevere amid our less-than-perfect circumstances!
We should remember the example of the prophets and Job who endured great suffering for the Lord (James 5:10-11). In the case of infertility specifically, there are numerous examples in scripture (Sarah, Rebekah, Rachel, Hannah, Elizabeth, and others). Many of these women eventually conceived spiritual leaders who greatly glorified God, including Isaac, Jacob, Joseph, Samuel and John the Baptist.

5. God will use our pain as part of our ministry

The purpose of our afflictions is so that we will experience God’s comfort and then we will be able to comfort others with the comfort we have received directly from God (2 Corinthians 1:4). God has given me many scriptures that have comforted me very specifically. I have been able to comfort others who are struggling with various trials by simply sharing my story of how God has been comforting me. I’ve been amazed at the ministry opportunities my infertility has provided! Though I don’t yet know how God is going to respond to my current wait, I am now confident that he is writing a good story and there will be a satisfying conclusion someday.